I know you’ve had this conversation with yourself. Because I did, too. It goes like this:
“It’s your fault. Why didn’t you do something interesting, just for a change?
Something unforgettable. An experiment. Something where the outcome wasn’t known in advance. Something that, at the end of my life, would be worthy of a pat on my own shoulder: Great job, Andrea. Great job. I’m quite impressed.” *leanbacksipchampagne*. Ahem.
But looking around, the topic that overshadows all others when planning life (if that’s possible at all) is not going out there, taking a hand full of this fantastic world, throw it all up in the air – and let great experiences rain down. Now, the key words we’re looking at are “security” and something psychologists call “cocooning”. Moving to a foreign country? And what about my pension?
There are many paths, and by not taking any of them and just tagging along, with life and fate leading the way (beware, not making any major decisions!), at least you’re on the safe side. Maybe it won’t be great. But then, it won’t be bad. I mean, not really bad. If you don’t take a risk, you cannot lose. Right?
Life in the hamster wheel is great. You never won’t get a reply after sending that irrational love letter. Your plants won’t die because you went backpacking for three months. Nobody will refuse you a job on the grounds that you were abroad for too long while others have been boosting their resumes.
But hey, I’ve got news for you.
Contentment isn’t satisfaction. We can be content with our lives, and then, five minutes before it’s over, realise that we were never really excited by anything we’ve done. We can have an “okay” job. But would you marry someone you find “okay”? How about we went for that job we love?
Yes, now we’re talking. But now the obstacles are pouring in. All the familiar catchphrases. How about money. Who fills the fridge. Who pays for the children’s education. Life isn’t a playground. It can’t be fun all the time. There are responsibilities.
BUT – without risk, no development. Without fear, no growth. And how on earth will you tell your children that they should strive for happiness, find their true calling – if you didn’t lead by example? But the biggest obstacle we haven’t even touched on (don’t lean back just yet!): If someone told you: JUST DO WHAT YOU WANT TO DO WITH THIS LIFE! – What would you do?
Have a great yoga practice (or quiet time, just sitting, thinking, dreaming…),